Tips for Stay-At-Home Moms

It is not easy for a woman used to working to suddenly have to stay at home with baby. There are usually physical and emotional issues that come into play during this adjustment period; some mothers never make the transition successfully. Here are some sanity-saving tips for stay at home moms.

Get a Life!

Mothers, new ones especially, have been trained to think that once they have children they have to sublimate their own needs for their children’s. To some extent, this is inevitable, but not in all instances. To be a more effective mother, you have to keep yourself whole. You are a person in your own right, and baby will be happier and healthier if you are happy and healthy. Take time to do what you want to avoid feeling suffocated from constant attendance to your child. Pamper yourself occasionally with a spa treatment, a shopping trip, or simply a good book. It will refresh your spirits and make you a lot more patient.

Make Time for Your Partner

The only reason you are a mother is because you have a partner. When baby comes, this should not mean the end of companionship and intimacy. Just as you should take time for yourself, you also need to make time to be with your partner. Schedule a date night at least once a week, or take a couple of hours a day after baby’s asleep to touch base. It will keep your relationship dynamic, which ultimately will be good for your child.

Spend Time with Adults

A lot of mothers often get so wrapped up in their children that they become socially inept; they are unable to hold adult conversations about topics that have nothing to do with child-rearing. They lose touch with friends and other contemporaries. If just to keep your social skills sharp, join a group or enroll in a class for adults and cultivate an interest in outside things. If you are unable to go out regularly, at least keep your social networks updated for some adult contact.

A woman has many roles, and one of them is that of motherhood. Without diminishing the importance of that role, you should remember that you are also a child, sister, wife, friend, and member of the community. Keep your identity and everyone goes home happy.

Working to Save a Marriage

Many couples often stay in unhealthy relationships without discussing their issues. When they reach their breaking point, rather than actually trying to fix their problems, many couples choose to file for divorce with the belief that ending the relationship is the only way to end the unhealthy relationship. Many couples choose to move away rather than face the uncertainty of their relationship, whether it will work out or not.

For those who file for divorce, it is essential to know if divorce is really the best decision for the relations. One of the things that couples should think about is whether they have hard or soft issues; hard issues could mean problems with abuse or addictions. Being involved in hard issues or problems in a marriage can make divorce a necessity for your wellbeing, but if issues can be worked out or if the underlying problem can be determined perhaps the marriage can be worked out.

Couples who choose who reconnect can get help through a marriage counselor. Not many couples who are experiencing marital issues go to marriage counselors, forestalling a fair chance for their marriage to work by believing marriage counseling is either unnecessary or will not help. Going to a marriage counselor, however, has many benefits. Not everyone has the relationship skills that are needed in order to maintain and solve problems in a marriage, and this is where marriage counselors help.

A key factor in a marriage falling out is the miscommunication or lack of communication between you and your spouse. Marriage counseling can help establish better communication by having the marriage counselor mediate over the conflicts that have built up, monitor the progress, and provide objective feedback that could be important in understanding you and your spouse’s needs and wants. Be warned, however, that marriage counseling can only guise you and your spouse through the process of fixing what might be wrong in your relationship, they are not the ones who will fix them for you. Going to the marriage counselor earlier on to address the marital issues can determine whether it is worth saving or it is time to file for divorce.