It is not easy for a woman used to working to suddenly have to stay at home with baby. There are usually physical and emotional issues that come into play during this adjustment period; some mothers never make the transition successfully. Here are some sanity-saving tips for stay at home moms.
Get a Life!
Mothers, new ones especially, have been trained to think that once they have children they have to sublimate their own needs for their children’s. To some extent, this is inevitable, but not in all instances. To be a more effective mother, you have to keep yourself whole. You are a person in your own right, and baby will be happier and healthier if you are happy and healthy. Take time to do what you want to avoid feeling suffocated from constant attendance to your child. Pamper yourself occasionally with a spa treatment, a shopping trip, or simply a good book. It will refresh your spirits and make you a lot more patient.
Make Time for Your Partner
The only reason you are a mother is because you have a partner. When baby comes, this should not mean the end of companionship and intimacy. Just as you should take time for yourself, you also need to make time to be with your partner. Schedule a date night at least once a week, or take a couple of hours a day after baby’s asleep to touch base. It will keep your relationship dynamic, which ultimately will be good for your child.
Spend Time with Adults
A lot of mothers often get so wrapped up in their children that they become socially inept; they are unable to hold adult conversations about topics that have nothing to do with child-rearing. They lose touch with friends and other contemporaries. If just to keep your social skills sharp, join a group or enroll in a class for adults and cultivate an interest in outside things. If you are unable to go out regularly, at least keep your social networks updated for some adult contact.
A woman has many roles, and one of them is that of motherhood. Without diminishing the importance of that role, you should remember that you are also a child, sister, wife, friend, and member of the community. Keep your identity and everyone goes home happy.